Do Right Woman, Do Right Man

When browsing through my Twitter timeline or my Facebook news feed, I run across the same question:

"Where are all the good men/women at???"

I cringe every time I see it. Not so much because of the question itself, but because of the person posing the question. You may say I'm being judgmental, but when people use social networks to broadcast their every thought and action and post explicit pictures of themselves, it's not passing judgment on anyone, but questioning how people think they can and deserve to find a "good man" or "good woman" when they have this oversexualized image.

Men- So you tweet about all the women you slept with, how much money you're getting, and in the wee hours of the morning, groaning about how "some ---- would be good right about na." That's cool. Do you. However, don't inbox me a proposal for a date when you spend most of your time calling women bitches and hoes, talk about getting high, or uploading twitpics of some "phat a**" you seen at the store. Don't say you're looking for a "natural woman" when you scout Facebook and Twitter for women to add as "friends" when a good portion of them are sporting false eyelashes, weave, and tons of makeup in their profile pic.

"Man, I don't know why I keep getting tagged in these Jordan/Nike heels pictures!"

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If you want to present yourself to others as a heartless, thugged out, hoe magnet, you can do whatever you want. But don't believe that any self-respecting woman is going to be attracted to that, let alone go on a date with you. Eff outta here.


Women- "Gurl, it's so hard to find a good man out here. I keep attracting the same ol' niggas!"

That is correct. Especially when you have back shot pictures with your a** cheeks on the bathroom counter.

Like, for real. It's getting old. If I was a man, I would NOT have good intentions in befriending you either. And you may be a loyal woman. You may know how to cook and clean and be "God-fearing", but WHO CARES when you look like a whore in all of your photos. And you'll be the FIRST to complain about all of the random inbox messages from "thirsty dudes." Yesterday, I watched a woman tweet about how (and this is a censored recount) much she loved performing oral sex and recalled various memories of threesomes and other sexual adventures. THEN turned around and got mad because men started DM'ing her about her skills.

"I'm a lady. Don't disrespect me!"

Bish please.

Clearly social networks will forever be a part of our culture, both in America and internationally. If you plan on using them to find The One, pay attention to how you present yourself, and don't complain that no good men or women exists. You just may be that man or woman that people are trying to avoid.