Playa, Why You Hatin'?

There's no such thing as having an opinion these days, so if you happen to have you one, kindly bag it up in a empty plastic bag from Krogers, and toss it in the nearest dumpster. Here's why:

A few weeks ago, I went to the casino with some friends. One of them won $100, and we all congratulated her. After separating from the group, I made the comment:

Man, ------ is so lucky! She won $100 dollars and I only won $15. I'm a loser. Ha!"

The comment was meant to be funny and I said it in joking manner. However, as soon as I said it, one of my guy friends jumped in and said:

"Why you hatin'?"

At first I laughed it off because I didn't think he was serious. But he proceeded to go off on me in front of our friends and random senior citizens on slot machines:

"Hatin' is hatin' no matter how you look at it. Last week, ---------- just said she didn't like this one girl's car because it was a nice car, and she was hatin' too. See how you females be?"

Though I could take one of two approaches in writing this blog based on the previous comment, I'll just go with one- why is everyone on the damn defense these days? As if being able to state a general dislike of someone or something, have a friendly debate, or even JOKE about disliking something is set to cause anger. For instance, you can't say that you don't think another woman/man is attractive without someone accusing you of having a low-esteem. Don't dare make a comment on whether or not you like your friend's new significant other and you're single-- you don't want to be labeled the "bitter friend." And as for those topics (i.e. abortion, gay marriage, religion, politics, etc.)- just....don't talk about it. You don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. In these days anyway, many of us have restructured our beliefs and opinions to make them acceptable to society and stay "PC." Instead of having discussions where both parties try to make the other understand their point of views, we have heated arguments in which we try to change the others' point of view. What is the purpose in that? Do we really want to have the same opinion on everything?



"Hating" has become one of the most abused words of the 21st century. As a matter of fact, I'm pretty sure a child's first words will be either "hater" or "swag." In any case, you cannot state an opinion on anything, I repeat, ANYTHING without hearing the phrase "Why you hatin'?" Thank God for blessing me with friends who are mature and intelligent enough to articulate their thoughts and beliefs in way that does not breed anger, but discussion. And when and if I'm not able to express myself to friends, there's always my dear old blog. Thinking about making it private though. I know I have someone out there hatin' on what I write.

Oops.