That's Just The Way It Is

I spoke with my mom yesterday, and she asked what was going on in my life. I covered the usual topics- work, my preparations for grad school, the friends moving to other states, MEN, and financial difficulties. As I was speaking to her, I literally had an epiphany on the phone. Before, I had this idea that since I resigned to stay in Ann Arbor for an additional two years, there was nothing changing in my life. That it was still the same ol' routine- work, sleep, and play (sometimes.) Yet, as I reflected on the things that I was saying to her, I realized that for the first time in 23 years, I felt like an adult. Unlike other young adults, I was never one to say to my parents, family, or friends at that, that I was "grown" when I reached 18. The word "grown" encompasses many things including financial independence, living on your own, and in general, supporting yourself. In addition, it goes beyond the material possessions. It is getting into the mindset that you're at a stage in life where things around you change, people change, and it's a matter of learning how to adapt to those changes.

We're human and it's human nature to complain about things. I am THEE most guilty of that. But in the conversation with my mom, I found myself on the verge of sounding like a "pity party." "Grad school is gonna be so hard." It's grad school, what do you expect Christina? "I'm having money problems right now." What adult doesn't? "Man, I'll be sad once my friends move..." OR, you could be happy that they're embarking on journey to start a new life in a place with better opportunities.

Those responses of course were not from my mother, but me to myself. My mom, being the caring person that she is, simply listened to my complaints, before offering a valuable piece of advice: " You're getting older Chrissy. There are things that come with age and there are people who are in your life only for a season. Don't look at change as bad thing, but view it as new beginning." So with that being said, I will slowly learn how to embrace change. Adapting has never been a problem, but accepting new situations has.

No worries. I'm forever in the process of bettering myself. What's the one saying? oh yeah "The biggest room in the world is the room for improvement."

And woo chil' lemme tell ya, my room is BIG.